Why do we feel the need look “better” or more “beautiful” or even like a completely different person?

It’s important to take a moment to reflect on what makes us feel insecure about our appearance and why we sometimes feel the need to look “different” or “better.” Where is that pressure coming from? Is it rooted in societal standards, comparison, or something deeper within us?

Research suggests that many of our insecurities stem from external influences like media, advertising, and social comparisons. Studies show that the constant bombardment of “ideal” beauty standards shapes how we view ourselves and others. Social media, for example, often presents filtered and curated versions of reality, leading us to believe that we must meet these standards to be accepted or loved. In fact, studies have found that frequent exposure to idealized images on social media can negatively impact self-esteem and body image, making us feel inadequate or pressured to alter our appearance.

It’s interesting to notice, too, how often, in social events, women feel the need to perfect a picture, adding filters before posting. It’s a reminder of how much we’re influenced by the pressure to present ourselves a certain way, even when we don’t always feel the need to do so in person.

But when we take a step back and ask ourselves: What do I really want? The answer may not lie in fitting into someone else’s mold but in embracing our own uniqueness. True well-being comes from understanding that we are worthy just as we are—without constantly changing or seeking approval.

By reflecting on our insecurities and understanding their roots, we can begin to challenge them and shift our perspective. It’s not about perfection but about self-acceptance and being comfortable in our own skin. Embracing who we are—without the filters—can be a powerful step toward true confidence and lasting well-being

Kenyi Diaz

www.kenyidiaz.com